Elaine Sihera
Bio
British Empowerment Coach/Public speaker/DEI Consultant. Author: The New Theory of Confidence and 7 Steps To Finding And Keeping 'The One'!. Graduate/Doctor of Open Univ; Postgrad Cambridge Univ. Keen on motivation, relationships and books.
Stories (122/0)
Endgame: The Strangest Feeling..
Marriage is a three-ring circus....engagement ring, wedding ring and suffering. Sorry, joke! But if current divorce statistics are anything to go by, it is perhaps based on fact. Nearly 45 per cent of all marriages in the UK now end in divorce, with far fewer people marrying. That is almost one in every two unions.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Humans
What is The Real Value of Self-Help Books?
There are thousands of books and oceans of internet information available on how to help one’s self and resolve personal problems. The self-help market is booming as many people try to make sense of how they feel, to improve their mental health in this unforgiving social climate, attempt to get their life on track, or to simply boost their opportunities for success. But for others (particularly men), self-help books have not really worked, perhaps because of the sceptical way they view such books.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in BookClub
Can True Love Last Forever?
We are all searching for that Utopia where true love lasts as long as possible and we are happy ever after. Yes, true love can last an awfully long time, but it is unlikely to do so for two key reasons: our own emotional evolution and a lack of reciprocity.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Humans
From Awkward to Awesome: 7 Ways To Boost Your Self-Esteem!
Self-esteem has its roots in the value we place on ourselves - basically our self-worth. It has little to do with money or material things, but a lot to do with self-perception, and is governed by how we routinely feel about ourselves. It follows that if we think very little of ourselves, with no love or self-acceptance, we would place no value on ourselves, and our self-esteem would be pretty low.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Psyche
New Year, New You? What Value are Resolutions?
It's that time again when we tend to take stock as we anticipate a new year - a time filled with personal promises that often reflect past disappointments, frustrated dreams and cherished aspirations. If you are considering making new resolutions, two weeks into the new year you are likely to be struggling to keep them. You might even get despondent at not sticking to them for a long time, and will probably wonder why you bothered, when it seems so difficult to achieve them. Again, some people are inclined to ridicule the idea of making resolutions especially when they believe their lives won’t be any better.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Motivation
The Art Of Saying 'NO': Breaking The 'Can-Do' Curse
On Christmas Day, or whenever more people than usual get together, it can be stressful for the hosts with all the demands that are likely to be placed upon them. Thy want everything o be right, and everyone to be happy, and my guess is that some people would be saying 'YES' to certain requests they believe are unreasonable, yet feeling impotent to do anything about it because of the desire to appear caring and empathetic. Yet, that does not help them to be authentic and sincere.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Psyche
The Ideal Christmas Gifts I would l Would Love To Have. What's Yours?
Christmas morning is almost up on us again and there are lots of presents that will be opening, especially by children, because the season has now moved well away from it's intended purpose - to celebrate Christ's birth - to focusing on commercial concerns, like acquiring material possessions.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Confessions
Unpacking The Baggage: How Self-Esteem Shapes Personality
Self-esteem is so important at doing its job, we tend to take it for granted without realising its effects. It emerges from the core beliefs we have of ourselves - whether negative or positive, confident or insecure. Thus our self-esteem influences the development and expression of personality traits within us, based on the impact of past experiences and our self-perceptions of ourselves. It follows that low self-esteem often stems from the negative beliefs we have relating to our emotional state, like feeling inadequate, worthless, or unlovable, Yet the twin aspects of self-esteem could not be more different.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Psyche
Seeking Love? Why Christmas Is The Grinch Of Dating
Christmas is fast approaching, and it is supposed to be one of the best times of the year for us: a celebratory one for the whole family. It is also about love, peace, and goodwill. Yet it can be the loneliest and most stressful time for some people, with precious little goodwill in it, especially for those estranged from their families, single people seeking dates and single parents with demanding children.
By Elaine Sihera6 months ago in Humans
Ditch The Age Angst. Embrace Its Power And Potential Instead
I was once asked if I "knew any elderly people who had tried new things and become very successful at them". As I am always championing being older, having enjoyed it since I was 50, I guess that person saw the question as an appropriate one.
By Elaine Sihera7 months ago in Longevity
7 Emotional Consequences Of Unrequited Love
Everyone has the right to love whomever they wish, and at whatever time, in their life. But love doesn’t start with someone else. It starts inside of us, loving ourselves. If we love someone ‘deeply’, especially when they don't return it, we are actually wanting their love to compensate for the lack of love we feel for ourselves. They would find it off-putting and might actually feel burdened by such emotional responsibility.
By Elaine Sihera7 months ago in Humans
The Contradictions Of Christmas
Every year, for at least a month or more, the UK goes into a spin about celebrating Christmas. The traditional carols come out of mothballs for another year, the retailers gear up for another spending spree on gifts, and there is the usual anxiety about getting the right turkey, everything going well for the relatives on the big day, and everyone having a super time. Like Thanksgiving in America, the Christmas period is a chance to renew friendships, chill out with loved ones, and simply celebrate the year, though the copious amount of drink consumed, and its after-effects, have been an increasing cause for concern.
By Elaine Sihera7 months ago in Longevity
