Elaine Sihera
Bio
British Empowerment Coach/Public speaker/DEI Consultant. Author: The New Theory of Confidence and 7 Steps To Finding And Keeping 'The One'!. Graduate/Doctor of Open Univ; Postgrad Cambridge Univ. Keen on motivation, relationships and books.
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Understanding And Managing Conflict In A Relationship
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, whether it's a romantic partnership, a friendship, or a family group, but when someone seems to like conflict rather than harmony, it is important to understand that at least four things are happening in the relationship:
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Psyche
5 Common Reasons Why People Interrupt You
Perhaps there have been too many times when you felt you were not being heard, or didn't get the chance to have your say, sufficiently, because you were interrupted. We have all been interrupted at some time, but if it happens a lot, there could be a specific reason for it, or there could be something you are not doing quite right to get yourself heard with respect.
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Psyche
How To Control The Ageing Process
As a Brit, and a keen ageing champion, while taking a holiday in Florida some years ago, I was taken aback by a party of men who were on a competitive sporting trip. They all looked late-40s or early 50s, being very active and energetic. I got talking to one of them about their trip, and he cheerfully admitted that they were all between 70 and 80 years old!
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Psyche
History Makers: John Willis Menard
When John Willis Menard was born in Illinois in 1838, African Americans lived in a society that was deeply divided by race. Slavery was still legal in the Southern United States, and even some parts of the North. Discrimination and prejudice were routine for Blacks, especially enslaved Black people who were defined by their lack of freedom. They were owned as property and could be bought, sold, and traded. Forced to work long hours without pay, they had no rights or protections under the law. Often separated from their families and friends, they were constantly in fear of being sold to a new master or mistress.
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in History
Someone Is Always Late? Subtle Ways To Change Their Behaviour
When someone is habitually late, it can have all sorts of impact on those around them, depending on the situation, their responsibilities and their required input. There are many reasons why some people are usually late, and the most common ones include:
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Journal
Celebrating Impact: Benjamin Zephaniah
I had heard of Benjamin in the 90s, having read his very clever and talented poetic creations that speaks life as it is, but I had never met him. Then, out of the blue, a BBC TV producer called me to ask if I would do an interview on a special topic relating to the British public honours system. He wanted two of us for the interview, me and this awesome poet called Benjamin Zephaniah. I didn't know it then, but it seemed we both shared an uncompromising principle - that of standing up for what we believe in. We had turned down nominations for a public award: Benjamin for an OBE, and I for a peerage to the House of Lords. Our reasons were also similar.
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Poets
Celebrating Impact: Neslyn Watson-Druée
What can I even begin to say about the indefatigable Dame Neslyn? I ask because anything I say about this amazing lady might sound over-the-top, exaggerated, or even trite. But what makes Neslyn so remarkable, is the quiet, authoritative and simply superlative way she has achieved her recurring success, while empowering others to do the same, and taking so many people with her in the process. When we talk about makin an 'impact', her life is an epitome of that.
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Motivation
Celebrating Impact: Paul Stephenson
November 2018 was a red letter month for me. To my surprise, I was being given a lifetime achievement award for my work by Diversity UK, but it seemed that I had to work for that honour by presenting a lecture to celebrate a remarkable activist for race relations, and I could hardly believe whom I was celebrating: it was Paul Stephenson, the man who had fearlessly challenged, and ultimately changed, a segregated employment policy in Bristol. I couldn't have felt more humbled and honoured to contribute to such an occasion, never mind my own achievement. It all seemed so surreal.
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Men
CELEBRATING IMPACT: Afua Hirsch
When I first saw Afua Hirsch speaking on television a couple years ago, I was mesmerised by her cool confidence, knowledge and sheer eloquence in voicing her subject. She seemed quietly well-versed and assured in what she had to say, which gave her words an authoritative power that couldn't be ignored. She knew how to get her point across, and she did it with an expertise that was formidable. It left quite an impression on me.
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Journal
Hidden Reasons Why Some People Can't Say Sorry
Many friendships and relationships break up primarily because pride and ego get in the way of agreement and harmony. Some people find it hard to apologise for anything, even though they know they did something wrong or inappropriate. They feel that it makes them look worse, or belittles them in some way. Yet they are likely to expect others to always apologise, so that they can feel ‘right’ or vindicated.
By Elaine Sihera8 months ago in Psyche
Celebrating Impact: Stormzy
I have to shamefacedly admit that, while I admire Stormzy's tremendous talent, creativity and empowering activism, I haven't really enjoyed his music! I guess I'm used to other genres like classics, soul and reggae! However, I remind myself that without his music producing the money, he perhaps would not have made the impact he has done on the lives of others. And big respect to that!
By Elaine Sihera9 months ago in Beat