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Elaine Sihera
Bio
British Empowerment Coach/Public speaker/DEI Consultant. Author: The New Theory of Confidence and 7 Steps To Finding And Keeping 'The One'!. Graduate/Doctor of Open Univ; Postgrad Cambridge Univ. Keen on motivation, relationships and books.
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Royal Britain(1): Eight Events That Embedded Monarchy Into British Society
(This brief snapshot of British history, particularly relating to our obsession with the monarchy, is meant mainly to raise awareness, and is told from an irreverent, lighthearted, unscholarly perspective!)
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in History
How To Become More Focused And Motivated
If you are one of those people who find it hard to focus, to feel motivated or to manage your time effectively, you are probably trying to do a lot, feeling overwhelmed by it all, and not achieving much in the process. Things are probably not going too well in your life and you are trying to compensate for that by initiating remedial actions. But, because you are not allowing your efforts the time and space to give you some success, they are not working as expected, hence you find it hard to motivate yourself and be focused. Couple with that is your possible fear of failure which adds its own anxieties, gradually becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy, too.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Motivation
Would One Person Calling You 'Ugly' Destroy Your Self-Esteem?
It is always hard to take criticisms or to deal with the negative reaction of others. But there is an important point to bear in mind for your own mental wellbeing. If just ONE person (like a date, etc.) calling you ‘ugly’ destroys your self-esteem, then you didn't have much self-esteem in the first place! After all, if it takes just one individual in our whole wide world to make you feel so bad about you, what kind of self-esteem did you have, except a low one? You have nothing to support your emotional health, so it gets easily knocked at the slightest negative action. As you're not feeling very good about you in the first place, the minute someone says something you don't like to hear, you feel ‘destroyed’. That really does not suggest any firm foundation of self-value or self-love, if other people’s comments count more than what you think of yourself.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Psyche
How To Stay Positive When Life Does Not Go To Plan
Before making any suggestions, it is important to stress one undeniable fact: No one promised us only the good life when we were born. We can modify what comes at us through knowledge, self-belief and confidence but we can seldom prevent the unexpected.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Motivation
How To Be Sure The Person On A Dating App Is Single
Can one ever be sure when one is dealing with the unknown on an anonymous platform? Trust is the biggest protection for such a situation because genuine people will tend to attract similar folk, even if a few people are not as trustworthy.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Humans
What Is Confidence?
Confidence is one of those states of being to which we all aspire. It has nothing to do with feeling superior to others, or being arrogant. It is a quiet sense of capability, authority, significance and worth. It does not need to boast because it is pretty obvious in itself. It is the twin side of self-esteem which means that we cannot feel confident if we do not accept ourselves.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Motivation
6 Daily Tips For Better Wellbeing And Self-Esteem
Recently I was moved by a quote I read. It went something like this: "I would prefer one single rose from you in my lifetime than a huge bouquet when I'm dead," and I second that wholeheartedly. A fat lot of good those roses are to us when we can't appreciate them anymore, yet were neglected in life and deprived of them. So my tips are all people centred, designed to keep us connected, even when we are not aware of it.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Longevity
Do You Believe No One Truly Cares About You?
Then start caring about yourself! However, your belief is likely to be your faulty PERCEPTION of your situation, and not the actual reality. In our life, we always have at least one person who cares about us: whether parent, relative, friend or stranger. There is usually someone there for us. However, we tend to judge everyone as uncaring when we have been hurt, especially by someone we love. At such times it doesn’t matter who cares about us, because it is likely to make little difference to our feelings. That is why the remedy to this feeling is likely to lie inside you.
By Elaine Siheraabout a year ago in Psyche
Problem Question: How Do I Get My Guy To Love Me?
(A reader says, "I just can’t get loved by my loved one and that realisation chills me… I do feel that I am not much of a person… It is the worst feeling to see there is nothing you can offer to your man that another woman cannot do better.)
By Elaine Siheraabout a year ago in Humans
Is There a 'Best Way' To Persuade Someone You Are Right?
This is an interesting question, as it might come as a surprise that there isn’t a ‘best way’ to persuade anyone that you might be right, especially when it comes to opinions. Not at all. There is a simple reason for this: unless we are dealing with irrefutable facts that can be easily proven with evidence, what we believe, and actually perceive, is tied up with our identity. It forms our values and makes us who we are. If we believe something in particular, the way we react to challenges and accusations of being incorrect will actually depend on our level of confidence and self-esteem.
By Elaine Siheraabout a year ago in Psyche