relationships
Trace the link between feminism and relationships from outdated norms to modern conventions including chivalry, working mothers, splitting the bill and beyond.
Africans Body Shame Lupita Nyong'o After Photos of her Dating White Man
Wednesday, 20 March 2024 By: TB Obwoge News broke recently of Nyong'o's breakup with her Black African lover just over a month ago. Recently photos surfaced of her on a beach, with a White man identified as a South African.
By IwriteMywrongs4 months ago in Viva
VOICES of Survivors
Over the past few months, I have been invited to join a wonderful group. This group is small in my area right now and we only meet once every two months but this is a National group that has been established since 2002 and it just keeps growing. This group's name as you've probably already gathered by the title of this is VOICES. We are a group comprised of men and women who are domestic violence survivors. Our group leader is Ms. Penny Hensley and she works very closely with our local law enforcement, our ADA's, our victim witness coordinators, WRAP(which is another wonderful service), and other agencies I'm sure I'm forgetting. The goal is to create a Family Safety Center so women, men, and children who are victims can go there for shelter and initiate any legal proceedings they may need/want to start during a domestic violence situation. Also, so they can have any questions they may have answered. Ultimately, we want you to feel safe, secure, and like you just received a hug at a time when your world is shaken. The first VOICES group started in San Diego, California in 2002 where the first members served as an advisory committee for the San Diego Family Justice Center. (https://familysafetycenter.org/voices/) You see, from the very beginning, we have been a group of people who want to make our VOICES heard. At one point or perhaps multiple points in each of our lives, our voices were silenced and this group, VOICES is about taking that back. This is about making people aware of not only abuse and its presence but also breaking down the barriers. There are so many stigmas around what a woman should take from a man because she needs to "obey her husband" as stated in the Bible, stigmas concerning whether or not a man can be a victim of domestic violence, stigmas even concerning how a victim should act after the fact(should she/he be quiet and not say anything or is telling people okay?), stigmas on therapy and how this can impact a person's mental health, etc. I could seriously go on and on. It is deeply troubling how we as a society victim shame and blame and then we wonder why these women keep going back to the violence or making excuses for their abusers or why a man is statistically far less likely to report D.V. than a woman. "Half of male victims (49%) fail to tell anyone they are a victim of domestic abuse and are two and a half times less likely to tell anyone than female victims (19%)." This quote from (https://mankind.org.uk/statistics/statistics-on-male-victims-of-domestic-abuse/). It is sad that we as a society(and yes I'm throwing myself under the bus here too) have taught women to be subservient to the point they could die or be raped multiple times and men that they have to be so macho that they need to suppress their feelings to the point it doesn't matter if they get beaten on? I'm sorry society and mankind as a whole but this is not ok! And honestly, this is why I'm still mad. I'm mad at myself, mad at society as a whole, mad at every abuser that ever was or will be and I'm mad at who hurt that abuser to make that woman/man into an abuser because typically every abuser starts as a victim first. So, let's turn things around gradually and step by step because we have to do better and be better and this is what VOICES is all about.
By Lindsey Altom4 months ago in Viva
Bitch
Got your attention, didn't I? Feeling like I might be pushing my luck with that title? Good. She won't mind. Hey, I am just a regular guy with the odd habit of occasionally sitting in front of this screen and spitting out stories from my life. Some of you know that I have lived overseas, that I am Canadian, black, male, teaching in Montréal with a weak grasp of French that does not really matter, come from an immigrant family, and have seen and done a lot of strange and unique things. You may even like my work and have commented on my successes and failures. But you do not know the whole story.
By Kendall Defoe 4 months ago in Viva
The Lover Who Broke My Heart
Love is a powerful force that can bring immense joy and happiness, but it can also be a source of deep pain and heartbreak when not reciprocated. In my personal experience, I have gone through the agonizing process of loving someone who did not appreciate or value me in return. This unrequited love left me feeling rejected, abandoned, and emotionally drained, leading me to question my self-worth and the validity of my feelings.
By Saso Elsaied4 months ago in Viva
My Own Doll
I still remember the day I received my special doll like it was yesterday. It was my 5th birthday, and I had been dreaming of getting a new doll to add to my collection. When I opened the gift from my parents, I couldn't contain my excitement. There she was, with her beautiful blue eyes and long brown hair, dressed in a pretty pink dress. I instantly fell in love with her and knew that she would become my new best friend.
By Saso Elsaied4 months ago in Viva
Love Unleashed: Orchestrating the Symphony of Self-Love
I love being a 48 year old empowered woman. It has always been me, and in my forties, I have had a profound realization that love has always resided within myself. In my younger years, I mistook unrequited love for the true essence of love. Those years were about pain and heartbreak and insecurity. I wrote about that here. As I entered my thirties, I found myself in a long-term relationship that was good, but not quite right. Better doesn’t mean it’s IT! However, something shifted between the ages of 38 and 48, and it ignited a fire within me.
By Jennifer Lancaster @jenergy174 months ago in Viva
Hey Girl. Top Story - March 2024.
I remember going to get Chinese food after church every Sunday as a kid and I would obsess over the fact that my animal according to the Chinese calendar was the dragon. As a little girl, I remember thinking I was special because I was the most mystic of all the creatures! Anyone born in the year of 1988 was the year of the dragon, and so an animal represents each new year. The order of the animal signs is fixed, with the dragon being the fifth in the cycle, therefore the “Year of the Dragon” is 2024.
By Natasha Collazo4 months ago in Viva