Book Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

Hey guys, my name is Rehana. I hope you're good I don't read the self-help genre very often, but this book has been obtaining tons of buzz and I wanted to give it a try and that is The Subtle Art of not giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.

So Mark Manson is a blogger and an internet entrepreneur and I had not heard of Mark Manson prior to reading this, I still have not ever read anything on his blog.

So I did not extremely understand what to expect from this book and that I was shocked by what proportion I liked, It's written in an exceedingly means that creates you're feeling like you just sat down at Dunkin Donuts for a mid-afternoon chat on a Saturday afternoon with a guy named Mark, who happens to be a self-help longer that's the tone of the book.

There is no beautiful well polished prose, it's written like Mark is just talking to you like a friend and Mark rub some people the wrong way. He's kind of crass he's vulgar, there are curse words all throughout this book as the title might suggest.

The content at times is repetitive, But a lot of what he said really stayed with me and I actually made a point a few times to go get my journal and write down a few quotes.

Because I want to go back and be able to reference them, pretty quickly in this book Mark Manson makes a point to distance himself from the really common self-help message of the power of positivity and positive thinking and the importance of high self esteem and he actually cites a lot of social research studies that show that like mass murderers often have very high opinion of themselves and people who commit terrible crimes.

Often think they're great people and from there he talks about the importance of really examining the values that you Center your life around and that's pretty much what this book is about despite the kind of flashy vulgar eye catching title.

This book is really about how to examine the values that you centered your life and what it would require to actually make any kind of shift in them, something I found really helpful was the author's point that if you truly want to find out what your values are in your life.

Do not sit down and just say okay so what are my values and then I write them down on a notepad or something instead do an experiment, where you keep track of what you spend your time doing and what you spend your time thinking about and that's going to reveal to you what you've actually centered your life around the last sort of self-help book that I've read is the book of joy by the Dalai Lama and the Archbishop Desmond Tutu.

I read that in November of last year I think and the biggest comment thread that I noticed between this book and the book of joy is the idea that happiness is not some passive state of being, that you can eventually just achieve that happiness is more of an action .

It's an ongoing action the book of joy basically says that if you truly want to be happy step 1 stop thinking about yourself, go think about other people be generous and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck .

The main idea is that if you truly want to be happy Center your life around values that you truly want to be upholding and upholding those values is going to come with a slew of problems that you're going to have to continue to struggle with.

But that is going to lead to a more enduring and lasting happiness than this sort of chasing of an emotional or temporary high that leaves you happy for like a fleeting moment and I want to end by reading one of my favorite excerpts from the book to you and it's a bit long.

So bear with me but I do think that it's worth reading the whole thing to have the context to kind of make his full point, so it begins with the struggle is the point this is a difficult pill to swallow we like the idea that there's some form of ultimate happiness which will be earned we tend to just like the concept that we will alleviate all of our suffering permanently.

What you're willing to struggle for, I like that line who you are is defined by what you're willing to struggle for people who enjoy the struggles of Jim.

I can't say I terribly do but anyway people who fancy the struggles of a Jim are the ones who run triathlons, they're the ones who have chiseled abs, it can bench press a small house people. Who enjoy long work weeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones will fly to the top of it people.

I'm afraid you're missing the point because the joy is in the climate itself leave your thoughts down below as always thanks so much for reading.