11 Ways to Know You Have Your Soulmate

On February 26th, 2017, I met Shane and we became very close instantly. I can’t explain it very well, when you look at someone you just know that they are the only one. That’s about the size of it. Now I read a lot of romance stories of true love, and love at first sight. I thought this was nothing but fiction. But it wasn’t. Love, at first sight, is real it can happen when you least expect it. When I met Shane he was dating someone, and I was single at the time. It was tough because I was never the type to be a boyfriend stealer. But here I was going down the path that I never thought I would be going down.

I could see just by looking at him he was so unhappy, so I did the unthinkable when his girlfriend at the time introduced him; I just kept looking at him. I could feel my heart beating like a hummingbird’s wings.

I learned eleven things to know when he is the one:

Point One: Connection

When the connection is undeniably strong and both parties can’t ignore it. For Shane and me, our connection was unquestionable.

Point Two: Laughter

I have always loved it when he made me laugh even when I was miserable. He always seemed to put a smile on my face. I could be in tears, and he’d make me laugh like five seconds later. Most importanly, when anyone makes me cry he becomes mad. But when I start laughing at his goofiness the anger goes away and it makes him smile.

Point Three: Blushing

When he looks at me that certain way I blush. I think the reason why I blush is because all of my feelings flow to the surface when I think of him.

Point Four: Feeling comfortable

I feel so comfortable around him. If I accidentally burp, or something we laugh about it. I feel I can bear my soul to him without judgment. I can be myself without being told to go away.

Point Five: Attraction

The spark, or attraction never fades; it just grows from a single flame to bonfire. Even after a year I still get butterflies in my stomach. His smile makes me melt.

Point Six: Romance

Romantic dates whether it is at home, or outside (before COVID19) we enjoyed each other.

Point Seven: Arguing,then making up

We do argue sometimes, but even though we have disagreements we still love each other. Note: arguing, though it is hard, there is great makeup sex for any couple that is passionately in love with each other. After the best passionate making love you never let each other go. Never go to bed angry.

Point Eight: Communication

It’s important to be friends always, even while dating or married. Like any relationship, friendship is key. It makes it easier to communicate. Shane and I have never had communication problems, bBecause we have known each other for five years, and been together as a couple for one year.

Point Nine: Romantic notions

Just because it’s say Valentine’s day or Sweetest day doesn’t mean anything to us as a couple. Because to us everyday is like these holidays. You don’t celebrate these holidays once a year then forget your partner. You always treat them with kindness, Every day Shane always spoiled me, treated like a Queen. That’s what you do for someone you love. Note: Love isn’t about gifts, though it’s sweet, it’s about showing your partner that you love them, and appreciate them.

Point Ten: Acknowledging Each Other

When you have conversations about anything, say I love you, I miss you, I care, I respect you. And just show it. Say he/she goes to work, kiss them then say I love you so much [pet name or nickname]. Then show you appreciate them when they come home after a long day, talk to each other about your day, then give him/her a massage.

Point Eleven: When You Know he/she can answer all of these questions

You know that you are in a healthy loving relationship with your significant other.

In conclusion, I have learned when you love someone so much, true love isn’t fiction. It is real. And the flames of true love need to always be nurtured.