This Productivity Hack Will Improve Your Sex Life

It takes more than skills and technique to be good at sex.

You can read books, take a bunch of classes, have a gazillion notches in your bedpost, and still be a horrible lay.

But there is one thing that you can do that makes it virtually impossible to fuck it up (pun intended).

It’s something that many people don’t do because, at first glance, it seems counterproductive — at least when it comes to sex.

You won’t find it on Porn Hub or written in your favorite erotic stories.

If I’m honest, I didn’t start doing it myself until I was in my mid 30’s. But once I began, it transformed my entire life, and now I can say with full bars 📶 of confidence that I AM GREAT IN BED.

And now I am going to share the not-so-secret secret to being a fantastic lover.

Drum roll, please…

Before I deliver the goods, you should know that it’s not an instant fix.

It takes time and commitment to make it work. Oh, and consistency, you’ll need that too.

But if you add this to your routine, a couple of days a week (minimum), you will see results.

Oh, and I forgot to mention these other benefits:

Better health.

More time.

Greater focus.

So what is this genius hack that will overhaul your life AND make sex mo’ better, you ask? MINDFULNESS.

That’s right, being still can transform you into a Sex God. #TrueStory

Now before you hit the [X] in the corner of the screen, or worse, before you unfollow me, hear me out.

Stress kills, and right now, the statistics on stress are off the charts.

People are stressed about COVID, violence, death, climate change, and the future. They’re worried about money, health, cancel culture, and the palpable division that is ripping communities to shreds. They’re also concerned about how they look, what people think about them, and you guessed it — SEX, whether they’re doing it or not.

These things are not going to get better magically. I get that. But it’s going to take more than massive action to shift the tide. We also need to slow down and be still.

BUT HOW IS MINDFULNESS GOING TO IMPROVE MY SEX LIFE, STACEY???

Pump your brakes; I’m getting to that.

How often do you find yourself stuck in your head when you’re trying to get your groove on?

Yeah, I thought so.

And it doesn’t matter if you’re thinking about work, whether you closed the garage or if you’re hitting the right spot.

If you’re distracted and in your head, you’re not in your body, so pleasure isn’t happening. And if you’re in your head, it’s impossible to listen to what your partner’s body is saying. That means you’re just going through the motions, and that’s no bueno.

Distraction has no place in SEX.

Good sex requires presence, and it demands your full and undivided attention. And quieting your mind will help you stay in the room so that you can notice the shift in your partner’s breathing when you’re hitting the right spot.

But that’s not all; mindfulness helps you to relax. And relaxed bodies are conduits for pleasure.

Developing a mindfulness practice will get you off the fight, flight, or freeze hamster wheel.

Wait, were you unaware that stress keeps you stuck in a perpetual state of survival mode? That’s right, and it keeps cortisol pumping through your veins and right into your belly. Oh, did you think that belly tires are just something that happens with age?

So stress is not just sabotaging your sex life; it’s also making your body un-sexy.

That’s why I’m trying to put you up on game! You need to add NOTHING to your schedule every single day.

Start with 5, 10, or 15 minutes.

Choose a mindfulness practice that works for you. Here are a few suggestions:

Take a walk.

Breathe on purpose.

Wash dishes or vacuum.

(any chore that allows you to move slowly and with intention will do).

I promise you, and I don’t make many promises, adding a mindfulness practice will enhance your libido, improve your technique, and boost your pleasure — and your partner’s pleasure too.

Mindfulness can also lower blood pressure, strengthen your immune system, improve your sleep, make you more compassionate, reduce anxiety, boost your memory, decrease pain, and make you more self-aware. #JustSaying

You’re welcome 😉

Originally published at https://medium.com