How to ask a girl out on a date 2

1 Treat her with respect. Make sure that any interactions you have with her are respectful and not overbearing. Don't assume that women want to be the lesser party in the relationship and always defer to your judgement. Rather, assume that your relationship, if it goes forward, will be one of equals and one based on mutual respect.

Never insult her or be rude to her.

Always consider her opinion and taste.

Don't make assumptions about her before you get to know her.

2 Avoid looking like a stalker, and know when to give up. Even though you're really into her, you've got to avoid looking like a stalking. Don't obsess, and if you do, try to control it. If she's interested in you, she'll let you know. If she turns you down, then call it quits.

If she rejects you, don't try to read in between the lines and interpret it as her playing "hard to get."

If she rejects you, don't go out of your way to "bump" into her randomly.

If she rejects you, don't be rude. Just move on.

Once she has ended communication with you, it's over.

3 Be honest about your feelings. Don’t sell yourself as a “friend.” When asking her out, don’t approach her as if it is two friends doing something fun. If you want to date her in a romantic way, be clear about that. If you're not clear, you're simply luring her into a friendship with ulterior motives. This is something that will ultimately frustrate both of you.

Part 3

1 Make sure you have positive body language. When asking her out, the tone and language of your body should match up with your words. You want her to get the sense from how you’re carrying yourself that you are confident and want to get to know her a little better. Make sure you’re standing up straight, smiling, your shoulders are up, and your hands and arms are in a relaxed and non-defensive posture. There are several things you should avoid:

Slouching over.

Crossing your arms. This demonstrates that you’re in a defensive posture.

Fidgeting with your hands. Don’t play with things in your hands, and don’t keep your hands in your pockets.

2 Have good hygiene. In order to give her a good impression about who you are, you've got to maintain good hygiene and look well-kept. If you typically don't maintain good hygiene, now is the time to step it up. There are a number of things you need to do:

Shave or groom your beard.

Shower before a date.

Use deodorant and cologne, if you want.

Floss and brush your teeth.

Wash your clothes and only wear

3 Exude confidence. When you ask her out, you need to make sure you seem ultra confident and sure of yourself. Try to think positively and focus on all of your good qualities in your own mind. There are pitfalls to this, though. Consider:

You don’t want to come off as arrogant or full of yourself.

You don’t want her to think that you think you’re too good for her.

You don’t want to alienate her or her friends by bragging or boasting about yourself.

4 Act naturally and don't make a big deal out of asking her out. Don't make it sound like asking her out is a matter of life and death. Avoid inserting a sense of urgency into the situation. Instead, act nonchalant, but interested. If you are tense and nervous when asking her out, she will feel just as tense and nervous. Make your invitation sound as if it was the most natural thing for you to do (and it should), and this will help her feel comfortable and at ease with the plan as well.

5 Resist the temptation to propose a grandiose first date. Proposing a grandiose date might give the wrong impression about who you are. While your first date should be memorable, you don’t want it to be the sort of thing that could intimidate her or could signal to her that you’re jumping the gun on a relationship that does not even exist yet. The purpose of the first date is to spend time together and focus on each other rather than some very interesting activity that would distract you from each other. Avoid:

Anything that requires traveling more than a half hour from your home city. You both should feel at ease and at home wherever it is.

Events like concerts or music festivals. Such events will undermine the ability for both of you to communicate and form a bond.

Events that the other person might not be interested in. Don’t propose a date to an exhibition on modern art unless you know that she’s also passionate about it.

Dates at locations that will force you to continue spending time together even if things go badly. Public spaces and settings are better because they will give you exit options.