Hitting Pause on the Wedding Bells

The idea of getting married especially as I approached thirty was something that always made me anxious about life. Changes were being tenaciously made, but none of it meant anything if I was not marrying correctly. I thought to myself: it’s my story, my life, and my love story.

I am somebody who made the mistake of letting people’s opinions shape my decision for a period of time. Meanwhile, my friends would wonder why I do things in that way but I will tell you the truth, it was not their life so they had no right to be unhappy about it.

Marriage should be simple: if he loves someone he stays with her but if he is not in love with one he leaves her. Why overcomplicate things?

It wasn’t about a bad match as such, but about looking for a partner who perfectly fits into the life I can plan. Who can blame the employee for looking for what he/she deserves?

Yet there was that fear from time to time of not being on par with others. But watching my friends who are happily single inspired me that the pressure to settle down was NOT giving in; rather it was about becoming better to yourself. It is absolutely ludicrous to commit to someone to get an insurance policy on the off-chance that he or she is unmarried late in life.

This lesson cost me my time and money. A friend of mine married incompatible. Their naïve behavior and lifestyle led to the separation of the two. Life is short and marriage is an important phase in life meaning that spending a lifetime with a partner that one cannot bear will be an absolute waste.

The ideal partner should be beneficial and not trigger stress. One can not exactly define that age, there is just an emotional readiness for something like that. It is not age difference that counts but rather a strong supporting relationship. Stop living through the expectations of strangers.

Being single feels more rewarding as compared to getting married; therefore why not stay single? Budget: It’s very important to understand what you should prepare for and what you want.

Ensure you are treated with love and respect as you would deserve it. Relationships are hard but they are not supposed to be something that is always a burden.

So, here's my message: It might take more time than you would expect, so don’t rush everything. What could be more beautiful than the story of a couple that proves that love bears no age?

Don’t wait for someone who can in anyway meet your expectations – wait for your heart to go aflutter. You have the right to have the next fairytale on your own conditions. Single girls should not despair as long as they do not despair; they should remain single until they find their knight in shining armor.

Thank you for reading!