Low- Self Esteem

Am I good enough? It's a question I have asked myself my whole life.

While growing up I didn't have many friends, I lacked confidence in myself. I used to spiral and have negative thoughts about myself. Every time I looked at myself in the mirror I used to think I was not pretty or good enough for anyone. I used to spiral with these thoughts out of control.

I used to be a people pleaser, I wanted everyone to like me and used to do anything for others. I used to think they might like me or want to be my friend If I did anything they asked. I used to keep comparing myself to other people, I always believed they were living a better life than me and social media was not helping and made these feelings get worse.

I always had a habit of overthinking things and doubting myself. I thought even if I try new things or give my all to anything I am going to mess it up. I was so afraid of failure that I stopped trying. I was so comfortable where I was I didn't want to take up new challenges or any risks.

I used to be preoccupied with sad memories of my past and being engaged in negative self-talk.

I know most people also struggle with low self-esteem , so here are a few tips that are helping me to build my self-esteem :

1. Try to push out any negative thoughts and try to only have positive thoughts.

2. Love yourself first, treat yourself better.

3. Do things that bring you joy. Even if it is something small do it.

4. Surround yourself with people that love you.

It is good to start paying attention to negative thoughts that you might have each day . When you start to have negative thoughts start to identify cognitive distortions, such as jumping to conclusions. Try to replace these negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

If you only think of your mistakes or failures learn to forgive yourself and move on. By forgiving yourself, you can focus more on things that you can do better for a wonderful future instead of only having negative thoughts of your past.

You don't need to have some sort of value in life. I have learned to accept myself as who I am, I don't need to change myself to keep anyone. When the right people walk into your life they will accept you for who you are. With all your flaws and imperfections they will accept you and cherish you for who you are. Keep telling yourself you are worth it, you deserve all the happiness in this world.

Appreciate yourself and your achievements. Don't try to compare yourself to other people. Think that you are worth it and don't forget to appreciate your talents instead of making comparisons and focus more on areas you would like to improve further.

Remember " You don't need to better to value yourself"

It also good to stay active physically such as exercise and you can try to keep a gratitude journal which would to help negative thoughts out of your mind.

For anyone who thinks they don't deserve love, just keep telling yourself you are worth it and deserve every happiness in this life.

Keep in mind that self-esteem plays an important role in your ability to pursue goals and develop healthy relationships. Self -esteem will help you to feel good about who you are. Having low self-esteem will make you more susceptible to mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression.

Raising your self - esteem will take some time and effort. Take a small step and keep at it.

Stay Positive !!!