Beyond Possessions: Embracing Kindness as the True Measure of Success

In a world obsessed with material wealth, it’s easy to be dazzled by the superficial. The latest trainers, designer clothes, and expensive gadgets often become the markers of success. But as someone who has seen the stark realities of life while backpacking and living in Mexico, I have come to a profound realization: I am no longer impressed by superficial things. I want to know how kind your heart is, not what new trainers you got or how much you spent on them.

This shift in perspective didn’t happen overnight. It was shaped by the experiences and observations I’ve gathered over the years. I've often wondered, if rich people had all their belongings taken from them, who would they be? Would they even know who they are without all these things?

In our society, there is a pervasive belief that wealth equals happiness. Phrases like “so and so is doing well” often refer to someone owning a house or driving a fancy car. But does this really mean they are well? The assumption that material possessions are the ultimate indicators of a successful life is deeply flawed. Success should not be measured by what we own, but by who we are and how we treat others.

Living in Mexico, I’ve witnessed terrible poverty that is hard to comprehend if you haven’t seen it firsthand. People here often live with minimal resources, yet they display a sense of community and generosity that is rarely seen in wealthier societies. The contrast between the rich, greedy individuals and those living in poverty is stark. It’s difficult to reconcile how both realities can exist simultaneously.

One particular experience stands out to me. While staying in a small village in Bolivia, I met a family who had very little in terms of material possessions. Their home was modest, and their daily lives were a struggle. Despite this, they welcomed me with open arms, sharing what little they had without a second thought. Their kindness and generosity left a lasting impression on me.

In contrast, I’ve met wealthy individuals who seem lost without their possessions. Strip away their luxury cars, designer clothes, and sprawling homes, and what remains? Would they know who they are without these trappings of wealth? It’s a question worth pondering.

When people say someone is doing well because they have a house or a car, they are focusing on external markers of success. But these markers can be misleading. Many individuals who appear successful on the outside may be struggling with unhappiness, stress, and a lack of purpose. True well-being should be measured differently.

Instead of asking how much someone owns, we should ask: Are they kind? Do they contribute positively to their community? Do they find joy and purpose in their daily lives? These are the questions that truly matter.

It’s time for a paradigm shift. We need to stop idolizing material wealth and start valuing the qualities that truly make a difference. Kindness, empathy, generosity—these are the traits that define a person’s worth. Imagine a world where we celebrate acts of kindness over the acquisition of material goods. It’s a world that might seem idealistic, but it’s one worth striving for.

In conclusion, the pursuit of material wealth often leads to a hollow existence. The real measure of a person’s success should be their kindness and the positive impact they have on others. As someone who has seen both extreme poverty and excessive wealth, I can attest to the fact that true happiness and fulfillment come from within. Let’s redefine what it means to be “doing well” and start valuing the qualities that truly enrich our lives.