Always being bullied by the honest people

The old ancestors told us, "Be honest, honest people do not suffer, even if they suffer, they will not eat a big loss." The words are good, but being overly honest, you will always be stepped on the bottom of your foot, and never have the opportunity to turn around, good luck in life, will also slowly disappear.

Kindness is the nature of a person, knowing how to help others, tolerate others, and do no harm to themselves. Everywhere with good people, will be a wide range of good relations, to live in a harmonious environment. However, for those who are evil, your kindness, does not work, the kinder you are, the more others bully you, if you encounter evil people, do not know how to resist, never an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, then it is in the connivance of evil people do evil, is not a good thing.

Always be bullied honest people, need to change the following habits, others will look up to you. A person's good luck, often earned, needs to be actively fought. When others know that you are not easy to mess with, will be a different attitude towards you, and you talk, but also be polite more.

1. Change the habit of "unconditional acceptance", and learn to refuse.

Others have made a request to you, if it is a reasonable request, of course, to accept, and by the requirements of others to do, especially in the unit on the mix, if you are too disobedient, everywhere and others to fight, then the boss will reprimand you, and even let you lose your job. However, you unconditionally obey the arrangement, regardless of whether the arrangement is right or wrong, are obeyed, you are "foolish", is to promote the arrogance of others.

My colleague Zhang Meg can do things OK, but very honest person. Colleagues in the unit, when it comes to tricky things, will think of Zhang Meg, pulling him to help. Colleagues get along, and see each other every day, how can I refuse? Zhang Meg is with this idea, time and again to help others, even if they work overtime, but also no complaints. One time, a colleague Wang Lou made a mistake in a contract, and the customer had already signed it, so his boss asked Wang Lou to hurry to replace the contract to avoid bringing losses to the unit. Wang Lou was in a difficult situation, but the customer was not a good one. Wang Lou thought of Zhang Meg and gave him the new contract and asked him to find the client. Zhang Meg found the client, but the client was unwilling to sign the contract and demanded proper compensation for breach of contract. Finally, the unit had to compensate the client a certain amount of liquidated damages before replacing the contract. This incident resulted in Zhang Meg being deducted a month's bonus, but Wang Lou ran faster than a rabbit.

In every unit, some honest people are bullied and called on by everyone. If you also have the habit of "unconditional acceptance", then you have to learn to politely reject others. When you reject people a few times, others will not come to you for help, on the surface, you and everyone's feelings have become weaker you have freed up more time to focus on their work, and your achievements, which will let everyone look at you, your boss will also appreciate you. The habit of "unconditional acceptance" is often to do more, more mistakes, and always let others trouble you, you are also in constant trouble.

2. Change the "fearful" mode of thinking, to do a good job.

Excessively honest people, or old-fashioned thinking, always use the past mode of thinking, to deal with the new situation. Or recognize the new situation, but because of the fear of this, worry about that, resulting in their own or unwillingness to try to do things in a new way.

Sometimes, you find a good opportunity, but you do not firmly grasp the opportunity, but are "fearful", worried about the opportunity to seize, but where to invest the money from, worried that they do not do well, worried about failure, worried about some unpredictable factors. "When you think about it, the opportunity is already lost, and then you think that it doesn't matter if you don't seize it. If others seize the opportunity and succeed, you will beat your chest and regret it.

People who are afraid to do things, like to find reasons for their timidity and fear. Often say "my life should be so, I just do not have savings, I am just a little success" and so on, the way of thinking, always half a beat slower. If you always do things with such an attitude, then you will be looked down upon, and people seize this weakness of yours, bullying you, to seize your "opportunities.

Some people, in a very ordinary unit, muddled through many years and then found that those who resigned, the better, but they have been ordinary. Others, borrow your wisdom, step by step success, but others will not appreciate you. So you have to dare to change yourself, do not worry too much. When you seize the opportunity to be bigger and stronger, others will look up to you, and you will live a more advanced life.

3. to change the "no opinion" of the problem, to be unique themselves.

Life is a choice, in many crossroads, you must make the right judgment, to be able to walk more wonderfully. But the crossroads of wandering, everyone has had, do not know in the end which road, is the road they want to take. Therefore, some people have been at the crossroads all their lives and have not gone out.

There are always people, with the attitude of listening to fate, who just take a random path, only to find that the road took the wrong way. Others, very assertive, have a firm goal, and in the case of no way out, know how to adapt and change direction, such people, often have a greater probability of success.

Others, like to listen to the advice of others, and repeatedly ask others "what to do". When you always have "no opinion", and always ask others, you are slowly being controlled by the thoughts of others, or you have lived in the shadow of others. When you ask others for advice, if you do not know "give and take", then you may also be used by others, really led by the nose.

Smart and honest people, pretending to understand, know how to seek the advice of others, but will not just listen to others' opinions. Do independent yourself, have a little personality, you can live out a different wonderful.

4. Change the habit of "obsequiousness", hold your head up and be on an even keel with others.

Do you always think that others are a class above you, and then in front of others, nodding and obsequious, saying flattering words, you hope that through their low, others become friends, to get the help of others? The more humble you live, the more others will step on you, and you live like a molehill.

To people to respect, but can not treat others as God, treat yourself as dirt, you have to be equal to people, even if the other party are your boss, you can not be too high up to him. Some people, in the unit, find ways to join the boss's circle, but also invite food and drink, but the boss at a critical time does not necessarily promote you, because he has his relatives and friends, and will take into account the benefits of access.

The submissive people, live too much of a wimp. It is better to hold your head up to be a person, and level with people, even if your own is a civilian, you can live with dignity. If you want others to give you a face, you have to know how to self-respect and self-love.

5. to change the "straightforward" habit, learn to silence.

Some people, in any case, will "speak out", to tell their thoughts to others, of course, when talking, is well-intention ed, is trying to help others, remind others. However, not everyone wants to hear a different voice. If you meet "small-minded" people, but also speak straightforwardly, I think you will offend people, to make them enemies.

Honest people, because talking offend people, then the offended people, will fight with you, and find ways to bully you. As the saying goes, "If you don't talk, no one takes you for a mute." Therefore, you have to learn to be silent.

A person, say less and do more, in order not to offend people, to be able to make their own in society, to get more development opportunities, to give others a good impression, and no harm to themselves.

Don't be a person who lets others bully you, these five habits, have to change! Whether in the workplace or society, do a not too good people, others will instead look up to you.