Letting Go to Let Them Grow

As a parent with a busy working schedule, balancing between the two was quite problematic. Well, my friend Dora, and her daughter Sarah used to be a very good student at school but at some certain point, she felt that maybe she was studying crazy.

This is what she did, writing her clothes, and packing her lunch to ensure that she had an easy time. It was during one of the examinations that she recorded a big win only to discover that she had stretched a point too far.

To this, Sarah exclaimed that she never had to learn simple household tasks since Dora was always the one who took care of them.

It was a wake-up call, meaning that everyone got the message and in this case, the message was to pursue your goals without letting fear hold you back.

My friend, for instance, was the complete opposite since his life was not affected by social media in any way whatsoever. His son, Peter, was another great example, but again, not really comparable – Peter got great grades and it had nothing to do with his academic abilities.

This was due to circumstances whereby Peter’s parents struggled to sustain the farms, and as a result, had to take Peter along with them back home. He washed dishes, swept the compound, wore aprons did all the cooking, and did all his studying alone.

They forced him; it was rather difficult for Peter to stay alive, but he did. Watching him secure his future in a great university made me understand that independence is indeed a potential generator.

Now about Jenny, She is my neighbor’s daughter. Her mom pressed her hard to perform well in all her exams; this led to her becoming stressed and anxious. At some point, even Jenny herself pointed the blame towards herself for displeasing the gods when her mom fell ill. It was like living in a fable; it reminded me that a child has to be protected, and has to be taken care of first.

In other words, it is like growing trees in a forest, and each of them has its bent in the wind. You would not cover the sunlight to some so that they can be elongated tall.

Every child thrives differently. One day child might find his hobby in cooking, and for Peter, life on the farm might have led to a marked interest in science. Who knows?

There used to be a little girl who had so much liking with ants. Her mother only allowed her to raise them in a box. The ants did well, and thus it did the girl’s curiosity good as well.

What is more, it compelled her to choose the occupation of a biologist. I think this is work’s success – it makes us trust ourselves as parents if we sometimes forget how to be good parents and ask ourselves: what if we give the kids some freedom, let them run free, and rely on nature?

Besides, it is better to make them strong and able to take the world by their hands, not young trees clinging to our branches all the time.

Thank you for reading!